on work and identity
"If our core personality is up for critique, we've truly lost our central anchor. The human craving to be loved for who we are outside of what we do is so primal. It is densely bound with ideas of worth, value, and belonging. We assign great meaning to how much we are accepted, which is, of course, a function of how truly we are actually known." -- Jen Hatmaker, from her book Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire At first I guarded my news like a secret, because I winced at the thought of how I would be judged and who would judge me. This last few months have not been easy. I have stood up and spoken out, and in a family and cultural system where calling others to the carpet for hurtful behavior isn't taken well, we tend to shrink back and tuck ourselves into the box from which we came. But with covid and 5 kids, hard choices had to be made, and the news had to come out. Why do we (I... maybe others don't do this) place so much of our worth on what we do/know/st
